Why Don’t You Understand Me?: The Surprising Science Behind Connecting in a World of Missed Signals

In Why Don’t You Understand Me? behavioral scientist and clinical psychologist Yael Schonbrun shows that misunderstanding is a problem of perception, not of communication.Solving it means looking in places most of us never think to look. In an increasingly “connected” world, misunderstanding is disconnecting us more than ever.Too often, we solve for the wrong problem. Understanding happens inside people, in how we filter, interpret, and make meaning of what we hear, not between people in the exchange of words. In Why Don't You Understand Me?, you’ll sit beside the Exalted Cyclops of Durham’s Ku Klux Klan and the city’s prominent Black civil rights leader as understanding transforms their lifelong hatred into friendship.You’ll join a detective, sitting alone in a room with a serial killer, and watch generous understanding extract a confession.You’ll visit a therapy room where two people who love each other can’t understand why they remember the same fight so differently, then discover w